Friday, September 26, 2014

How Sports Develops Values in Our Children? By Focus on the Family

By Rameshon

Values in Sports
I read this piece of article and was impressed with it. I believe that values are developed by sports. Values are important to be taught when a child is young. They should be taught to be humble and not to be proud. When they do something wrong, it is good to own up and correct oneself. If one's team-mate is making a mistake, it is good to point the mistake of the wrongdoer. I believe that that is true friendship. In this way, one develops one's leadership and intergrity; by doing this action courage is developed.  Many do not like to correct a friend's mistake. If you are a good friend, you would think about the wrongdoer's benefit of knowing the mistake and correcting oneself. 

Life is about perseverance as life is a marathon journey of ups and downs. Whether we win or lose, it is important not lose our values. If we intend to lose values, it is deemed that we have lost ourselves. 

Hence, I am posting this very good article which was posted by Moonlake in face book. She told me that the topic was from the Focus on the Family group. I hope you enjoy. 

From - Focus on the Family

Being involved in sports - whether seriously or for fun - gives our children opportunities for growth. Here are 6 values to inculcate in our children as they participate:
#1: Teachability
No matter how much an athlete accomplishes, he always has room to grow. To excel, he must be eager to learn and willing to accept instruction.
The bigger issue here is humility and respect for authority. The coach might make decisions your child doesn't agree with; the referee or umpire might make a bad call. Still, your child needs to learn to deal with his frustration in a positive way.
Tip: When things don't go well for your child, be willing to speak the truth. That might mean saying, 'Your coach is testing your character and your loyalty.' Or you might say, 'You can't control what the coach decides, but you can control how hard you work to get better.'
#2: Integrity
Martin Luther King Jr. used to talk about an "11th commandment" that prevails in America: "Thou shalt not get caught." Many people still live by that tenet. But we must call our children to honesty and integrity, and sports provide opportunities to do that.
Modeling is the key to teaching your kids integrity. No matter what you say, your kids will remember your actions more than your words. Your integrity is reflected in the way you cheer at your child's game and the way you talk about the game afterward. Would you give back a victory in order to do the right thing? What is your attitude about stretching the rules in order to win?
Tip: The best way is to lead by example. So for example, if you are playing football with your son, and the referee awards you with a penalty kick because the opponent fouled you - and you know that he didn't, you just fell - be honest about it. This provides you with an opportunity to show that you value integrity more than winning.
#3: Perseverance
In the heat of competition, your child will face defeat and failure. In football, your son may let an opponent race past him for the game-winning goal, while your daughter may lose out on first place in her school's swimming competition by 0.5 seconds. It's important to teach your child how to deal with failure in a positive way. That lesson, learned under pressure, will help prepare him to succeed — in sports and many other areas of life.
Tip: Be honest with your children, and avoid sugar-coating things. Help them by reviewing what led to the mistake, encourage them to deal with the disappointment, and then to look forward by seeing what they can do better in future.
#4: Positive attitude.
Gifted athletes don't necessarily make the best players. Often, a coach will keep them on the sideline because of their bad attitude. The coach knows this player can bring down the whole team. Likewise, the best teams are not always made up of the greatest athletes, but when they accept their role on the team and have a positive attitude about it, they can win. These players focus on the team and the greater good, not their own concerns.
As adults, we know that attitude determines how far we go in life - so it's important for us to inculcate a positive attitude in our children.
Tip: Your support and encouragement will help your child to maintain a positive attitude. Praise your child for her positive attitude above her good performance. When things are a bit rocky, challenge her with the notion that one optimistic person can set the tone for the whole team.
#5: Respect
As you know, there's a lot of posturing and "trash-talking" in sports today — even in kids' games. In the heat of competition, your child may be tempted to put another player down or pump himself up. He's trying to feel important. But it's vital that we teach our kids to show good sportsmanship even during on-the-field battles.
They need to learn to redefine what "winning" means. If they win a game but disrespect or humiliate other players, it's not winning.
Tip: In football, teams usually shake hands before or after the game. This is a good practice you can consider getting your child to adopt. Also, take note of the sports figures they admire; when they model respect, casually point it out and suggest that it's a good example to follow.
#6:Self-esteem
Sports will bring out the unique characteristics of your children. It will help them discover their talents, gifts and abilities. Maybe your son can't jump high enough to touch the net — but he might be a good shooter from the outside. Maybe it's clear your daughter will never be the star of the team — but perhaps her teammates all look to her for encouragement. Whatever the case, your children will learn a lot about their strengths and weaknesses.
Tip: The performance-oriented nature of sports will give you many chances to cheer your children on and affirm them. Regardless of this, let them know you love them simply for who they are. Beyond their sporting performances lies an individual with character and heart, and that's something to be praised.

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